Passive aggressive people are stubborn but very very deceptive. They make you aggressive and they want all to see you as the aggressor, but they are the aggressors. I don’t know if anybody has had any experience of the picture I am painting. They are everywhere and they come in different shades. Sometimes we make the mistake of coloring it with race and misclassify it as racism if they have different skin color. But then you realize they do it to people of the same race too. They even do it to family. They are not confrontational, but they are acidic…they eat like the canker worm. They can find everything wrong with everybody but nothing wrong with themselves. They are very suspicious, and they watch your every step with sinister mind. Passive aggressive people can set members of a team against one another and you cannot pin them to it. They can set a house on fire, raise alarm and appear harmless.
What is even worse is passive aggression. Dealing with passive aggression is more difficult, as they are mainly sneaky and snaky…when you think they are going east they go west. Nobody would believe nor imagine the emotional trauma they put you through because they look harmless and peaceful. They subtly make the workplace hostile and even when you go out of your way to make them happy, your effort will be in futility. They avoid holding a conversation and act as if they know everything, yet they do not communicate nothing. They are wise in their own eyes. They are always right because they haven’t given themselves a chance to listen to a different argument. They tell themselves they deserve the world for waking up and they expect that everybody should take their side and celebrate them. They even call truth lies, and you would believe them until you listen critically to the other story. Beware of the danger of a single story.
They walk and behave as if they cannot harm a fly but they would kill an elephant and swear by their fathers. Passive aggression sounds like an oxymoron but that is the problem, and that is what they are. A passive aggressive person could break a bank and you would bet your life for them. They may even start crying as though they are innocent and oppressed until you begin to gather the facts and push emotions to the side. If you start investigating them, they adopt emotional blackmail to ward you off and point you in the wrong direction. You would believe their story even when it was a well calculated alibi, meant to deceive. They are sentimental and they mop up sentiments by their fakeness. If they commit a crime, investigators will earn their wages trying to nail them to it.
Passive aggressive people are stubborn but very very deceptive. They make you aggressive and they want all to see you as the aggressor, but they are the aggressors. I don’t know if anybody has had any experience of the picture I am painting. They are everywhere and they come in different shades. Sometimes we make the mistake of coloring it with race and misclassify it as racism if they have different skin color. But then you realize they do it to people of the same race too. They even do it to family. They are not confrontational, but they are acidic…they eat like the canker worm. They can find everything wrong with everybody but nothing wrong with themselves. They are very suspicious, and they watch your every step with sinister mind.
Passive aggressive people can set members of a team against one another and you cannot pin them to it. They can set a house on fire, raise alarm and appear harmless.
When you ask them, they give you an answer they believe you want to hear, and then they sneak in to do something different. They may even start rumor and appear as if they have no idea what you talk about if you do ask them. If they pick your slack at work, the world must know it to give them all the credit. When you are not there, they use you to shine but as soon as you come in they fake a smile and appear as though they are your friend. But they do not have genuine smile or laughter. If you want to be their friend, then you realize how cold and boring they are. They are very negative…nothing is done well except the things they did, you don’t know what you are doing unless you do it the way they approve of.
If you have such a person in your network, mark them and watch them. They will not clap when you are winning. They are competing with you and you do not even know it. They are interpreting your jokes negatively, your laughter critically and your friendship gestures derogatorily. You must be someone that pays attention to details to figure out what they do and who they are. In positions of leadership, they are the most difficult to work for. You cannot please them. They are the least hospitable of people.
Wouldn’t you want to work for someone you could tell when he is angry and when he is happy? Every day is not sunshine, and every day is not gloomy….when someone’s day is always gloomy…chances are that they are passive aggressors too. Watch out for them and tread cautiously. They are dangerous and they can ruin your career. I have met them in my twenty years of career. They hate you for being you and they do not want to openly admit it. I’d prefer you and I agree that you don’t like me and I don’t like you, so we keep our meetings and discussions official, especially when and if we have to work together. We can keep our differences at the door when we get to work, then pick them back up on our way out.